Look in the mirror

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Cars carry a message, “Objects in mirror are closer than they appear”. We need a message on our personal mirrors that says, “Your image may not be as it appears; look within yourself for true reflection”.

Who am l?

When I look in the mirror, who is that looking back? Am I who I appear to be? Do I try to mask the interior of my personhood by decorating the exterior with designer labels. Have I become so accustomed to give an impression of other than my true self that I have begun to believe and accept the false image I portray? Each one of us should seriously reflect on this.

The need for maturity and integrity

Integrity is about being yourself at your best, being honest, being honorable and being true to the noblest of universal values. Maturity entails taking responsibility for your own life, taking rational decisions that reflect the best that you can offer. The touchstone of maturity, however, is personal integrity; applying basic values to the decision-making process and thus living in a way that allows your personality to be consistently good. In reality, integrity is about moral maturity; what it is to think and act in a way that reflects the full stature of a rational human being.

Life shaped by choices

Our lives are continually being shaped by the choices we make and the convictions and values that underlie them. In this sense, our lives are like works of art, in progress. We can take the material of life and either react to it in a passive way, always remaining life’s victim, (hiding behind a mask); or take it and use it creatively, becoming the architect of one’s life and a participant in shaping one’s destiny and in designing one’s true personality.

Reach your full potential The holy Prophet is reported to have said that Allah has prescribed goodness and excellence in all that you do. In relation to evolving human potential and developing personality, this statement motivates a person to utilize one’s life skills in the most progressive and pro-active manner; demanding the demonstration of dignity with pride, courage with conviction, patience with perseverance, power with mercy, authority with justice, duty with commitment, principle with wisdom, freedom with discipline and honor with compassion.

Let your imprint be a heart-print

We may try to impress people by leaving behind a particular impression of our self or imprinting an image of some kind. We leave behind various kinds of imprints throughout our lives, imprints that makes distinct our uniqueness. Each one of us have swirly lines on the tips of our fingers that provide a map of our individuality called fingerprints. The footprints we leave behind temporarily indicate the direction from which we have come or in which we are going. Voiceprints are somewhat unique to individuals and can even be identified by little babies if the voice belongs to one close to the child.

All these prints are some form of physical manifestations of who you are. These can be obscured, wiped away or smudged; but there is another kind of print that is never wiped away; it is the imprint you leave when you positively affect the life of another person: heart-prints. Unlike your fingerprints, footprints and voiceprints, with heart-prints there are no lines, no sole marks and no sound wave peaks. What you witness is the impact and effect you can have on the lives of those you touch. You might see a smile in return for a greeting or a tear when sharing an emotion or feel the warmth of a hug in return for your consolation. Heart-prints leave indelible imprints, ones that sustain and enrich life for years to come.

True You

The only way to leave true heart-prints is to be uniquely you and to share with others the essence of who you are at your best; no masks, no charades; just the bona fide you, uniquely you, you-nique.

Sadullah Khan was the Director of Islamic Center of Irvine. He has presented lectures on Islamic Civilization at California State University at Dominguez Hills. He is a frequent lecturer for the Academy of Judaic, Christian and Islamic Studies at UCLA (University of California, Los Angeles). He was also an advisor to the Chancellor’s Committee on Religion Ethics and Values at UCLA and served as Director of Muslim Affairs at USC (University of Southern California).

You can watch his lectures on Empowerment and Hadith of the Day at IslamiTV

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  1. I want to say jazakallah khayran for chosen me as on of the beneficiaries of this nothing but sole inpiring article.May Allah SWT in his infinite mercy reward you abundantly.Pls i want you to keep on sendig this kind of article to me for i see it to be a kind of lubricants to protect a believer’s soul from rusting.Once again I say JAZAKALLAH KHAYRAN KASEERAN.

  2. Thankyou for the reminder, we are sooo busy in our daily routines that we have become lazy in self reflecting. Taking time to ponder and self reflect are things that Islam encourages us to do, but we have become pros at advicing others than looking in the mirror for own selves. Thanks

  3. salam alaikum

    i really appreciate your sending of the upcoming islam day but please i would really appreciate it if u can be sending me new articles every day to my mailbox.

    Ma – Salam

    jazakumu lai kairan

  4. A Hadith says Mumin are like mirrors.So if one looks in the mirror it tells him exactly what is in him neither adding nor subtracting. This is why it is said you will not be a true believer unless you love for your brother what you love for yourself.Today unfortunately we are all selfish not wanting for my brother what I want for myself.If the mirror is banished it would reflect exactly what is in you otherwise if it is rusty it would not give the true picture.So let us try to be good examplary Muslims like Rasulullah wanting for others what we want for ourselves.When people see good example in us they would be more curious about Deen otherwise the more we show wrong Akhlaq the more people would be repelled ( rather than attracted) towards our Deen which is very unfortunate.THe Media can easily capitalise on these bad examples and show it to others. So we must continue to look at ourselves in the mirror whether we are correctly following the Deen or following our own desires.

  5. Jazakhallah khair for this excellent article. We all need a reminder now and then to stop and take a good look at ourselves. Take stock of our lives, where we are heading, and change direction when we should. The only way we can be true to ourselves and others is if we are true to our Creator, Allah s.w.t., please Him always, and follow the example of our beloved Prophet (sal). Then we will never go wrong and always be the best we can be.

  6. What an inspiring and a motivating article. Well packaged and straight to the point. May Allah bless us with the will to touch the lives of others positively so as to gain his pleasure. May Allah Bless the writter and continue to stimulate his interlectual prowess for the benefit of mankind, here in this world and in the hereafter.