A True Love Story 


In the Name of God, the Most Merciful, the Most Compassionate

She was one of the noblest women around, coming from a very prominent family. She was also quite beautiful and the holder of a considerable amount of wealth, being a prominent businesswoman. To marry her would have been a great feat for any man, and indeed, quite a few of the most prominent and wealthy men in society had asked for her hand. Yet, she rejected them all; already being a widow, she had lost the desire to marry again. 

Until he came into her life. He was young man of 25, and although he was also of a noble family, he was an orphan and was not a man of many means. He had made a meager living tending sheep in the hills surrounding the city. Yet, he had an impeccable moral character, and he was widely known as one of the most honest men around. That is what attracted her to him: she was looking for someone honest who could conduct business for her, as she – a woman in a fiercely patriarchal society – could not do it herself. So, he started working for her. 

After he came back from his first business trip, she asked her servant, whom she sent with him, about him and his conduct. The servant amazed her by his report: this young man was the kindest, gentlest man he had ever met. Never did he treat the servant harshly, as many others do. Yet, there was more: as they traveled in the heat of the desert, the servant noticed that a cloud had followed them the entire time, shading them from the blazing sun. The businesswoman was quite impressed with her new employee. 

Not only that, this new employee proved to be an astute businessman in his own right. He took his employer’s merchandise, sold it, and with the profits bought other merchandise that he sold again, thus profiting twice. All this was enough for her: the embers of love in her heart that were once extinguished re-kindled again, and she resolved to marry this young man, who was 15 years younger than she. 

So, she sent her sister to this young man. She asked him, “Why are you not married, yet?” 

“For lack of means,” he answered. 

“What if I could offer you a wife of nobility, beauty, and wealth? Would you be interested?” she told him. 

He replied in the affirmative, but when she mentioned her sister, the young employee chuckled in amazement. 

“How could I marry her? She has turned down the most noble men in the city, much wealthier and prominent than me, a poor shepherd,” he said. 

“Don’t you worry,” the sister replied, “I’ll take care of it.” 

Not long after, the wealthy businesswoman married her young employee, and it was the beginning of one of the most loving, happiest, and sacred marriages in all of human history: that of Prophet Muhammad and Khadijah, the daughter of Khuwaylid. When they were married, the Prophet was 25 years old, and Khadijah was 40. Yet, that did not bother the Prophet one bit. He loved her so deeply, and she loved him as deeply. They were married for 25 years, and she bore him six children: 2 sons and 4 daughters. Both the sons died in young age. Khadijah was a source of immense love, strength, and comfort for the Prophet Muhammad, and he leaned heavily on this love and support on the most important night of his life. 

While he was meditating in cave of Hira, the Angel Gabriel came to the Prophet Muhammad and revealed to him the first verses of the Qur’an and declared to him that he was to be a Prophet. The experience terrified the Prophet Muhammad, and he ran home, jumping into Khadijah’s arms crying, “Cover me! Cover me!” She was startled by his terror, and after soothing and comforting him for a while, the Prophet was able to calm down and relate to her his experience.

The Prophet feared he was losing his mind or being possessed. 

Khadijah put all his fears to rest: “Do not worry,” she said, “for by Him who has dominion over Khadijah’s soul, I hope that you are the Prophet of this nation. Allah would never humiliate you, for you are good to your relatives, you are true to your word, you help those who are in need, you support the weak, you feed the guest and you answer the call of those who are in distress.” She then took him to her cousin, Waraqah ibn Nawfal – a scholar well-versed in the Judeo-Christian scripture – and he confirmed to the Prophet that his experience was Divine and he was to be the Last Prophet. 

After his ministry began, and the opposition of his people became harsh and brutal, Khadijah was always there to support the Prophet Muhammad, sacrificing all of her wealth to support the cause of Islam. When the Prophet and his family was banished to the hills outside of Mecca, she went there with him, and the three years of hardship and deprivation eventually led to her death. The Prophet Muhammad mourned her deeply, and even after her death, the Prophet would send food and support to Khadijah’s friends and relatives, out of love for his first wife. 

Once, years after Khadijah died, he came across a necklace that she once wore. When he saw it, he remembered her and began to cry and mourn. His love for her never died, so much so, that his later wife A’isha became jealous of her. Once she asked the Prophet if Khadijah had been the only woman worthy of his love. The Prophet replied: “She believed in me when no one else did; she accepted Islam when people rejected me; and she helped and comforted me when there was no one else to lend me a helping hand.” 

Much has been made and said about Prophet Muhammad’s multiple marriages. There are many who smear the Prophet as a womanizing philanderer, citing his multiple marriages. This is absolute propaganda. As a response to those who malign the Prophet , IF the Prophet were anything of the sort, he would have taken advantage of his youth to do such a thing. But he did not! At a time when it was a common custom to have multiple wives, the Prophet did not marry anyone else while he was with Khadijah.

It was only after Khadijah died, may God be pleased with her, that he married other women. Most of these wives were widows, whom the Prophet married to care after them, or they were the daughters of prominent Arab chieftains, so that the Prophet could form a cohesive Muslim society out of a fiercely tribalistic (and barbaric) Arab culture. The smears against the Prophet fall flat on their faces once the light of truth shines brightly upon them.

In a song about the Prophet and Khadjiah, Muslim rappers Native Deen sing: “We look for stories of love in places dark and cold – When we have a guiding light for the whole world to behold.” Many of what we call “love stories” today are nothing more than stories of lust and desire, physical attraction disguised as love.

Yet, I can find no love story more powerful, more spiritually uplifting, more awe inspiring as that of the Prophet Muhammad and Khadijah. It is a shining example of what an ideal marriage is, and if I ever claim that I love my wife, I must gauge my actions with that of the Prophet. As the country commemorates Valentine’s Day, and everywhere we turn this month, “love is in the air,” I cannot help but reflect upon, what is to me, the greatest of all love stories: that of Muhammad and Khadijah. Even with all of its amazing and creative talent, Hollywood could not have come up with a story greater than this.

 

Hesham A. Hassaballa is a physician and writer based in Chicago. You can visit his blog at www.drhassaballa.com.



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  1. MashaAllah! Well-said! Brought tears! Touched my heart! Another prophet’s beloved was Aisha R.A. who is another example to a true love story in the history of mankind.

    ANd another touching story!!

    Sadly, we don’t live our lives like them and their example given to us neither use it in our marriage.

    Peace & Blessings be on Prophet, his wives,and all his companions ameen.

  2. I think we should not act like non-Muslims and start associating our prophets life with the pagan valentine occasion. Our deen spread not because we made it palatable for every different nation we came across. Instead they saw us practicing and not compromising when it came to religion. We Muslim immigrants want to please Americans and try to come up with events to justify pagans celebrations. So I request Islamicity officials to discourage such articles. I hope we will take our religion seriously and teach our children same values too.

  3. Alhumdulillah.It is the first time I’ve ever heard the love story of the Prophet Muhammad[sas] in this style which is the same as my thought.Especcially it comes from a man.It is really nice explanation for not only muslim but also for the other persons who are still misunderstanding what is real Islam.I have to thank very much for your nice writing.I hope that there will be more stories like this in the next time.

    May Almighty Allah protect us all from the misguidance,Ameen.

  4. An absolutely amazing piece of writing, so very touching and heart warming. May allah bless the author and all its readers with the true meaning of love.

  5. As salaam alaykum,

    This is indeed a good article that reminds one as a husband, ones responsibilties towards our wife/wives and as a wife your responsibilities to your husband. It is also a reminder that celebration of love in Islam must be directed towards earning the rahmah of Allah and not purposely to copy a pagan tradition.

    I say thank you to the author and Islamicity for the article but also want to say that the timing of posting should be looked into such that muslims will not mistake its posting now as support for celebrating valentine’s day.

    May Allah reward you.

  6. A great article. A previous commenter negatively compared this

    to a Valentine’s Day story — not so! Let’s lighten up and enjoy

    the inspiring message in positive stories like this. It’s a good

    reminder that Islam is a religion of love — every day of the year!

  7. Masha’Allah great article, but we must remember that in Islam, we do not celebrate Valentine’s Day, as it is a huge Bid’ah and derives from pagan holidays. Jazak Allahu Khair, wasalaam,

    Saleema

  8. What atrue love story! Our beloved prophet is an honest and trust worthy person that this world has never had and will never get like him we really miss our beloved prophet SAW. we love more that our parent!! Assalamu alaika ya Rasullullahi!!!

  9. I am not a scholar on Islam, but had to post this comment. I could be wrong on this one, and if I am, pls let me know.

    Most of what the article says is right,but none of the Prophet’s(Saws)wives were beautiful. nowhere has it been mentioned that Khadijah(rah)was a beautiful woman. also the writer has quoted her as saying to her husband when he was 1st visited by jibraeel “I hope that you are the Prophet of this nation.” at that time most of arabia was in jahalah and didnt know about prophets. In fact, it was her cousin Waraqah who informed them that Muhammad was the chosen prophet of Allah.

    I would like to remind you that any addition or diviation is a going away from Islam and a weakning of the faith. Please check what is written by any of your contributors. this site is really wonderful and most people take whats on this site as the thruth. I request you to pls check the authenticity of all writings before including them here. I say this because I am watching how the muslim ummah in India is blindly following what some people tell them, without checking the authenticity and then they dilute their faith. Islam has too many detractors externally, please lets not go astray internally. May Allah forgive me if I am wrong, my intentions were not to hurt anyone’s feelings, nor is my knowledge vast, but its been written in many books that none of the Prophet’s wives were beautiful, this was so that the detractors and slanders would not have a chance to malign his character and nobility in times to come. Once again I beg forgiveness of Allah and you if I am wrong.

  10. very nice and wonderful article,may Allah increase the author wisdom,for reflect prophet life to us,but not at this frivolous event called valentine period because people are different in thought.time consideration is really matter.salam alykum.

  11. As salamu alaikum: I totally agree with Saheen. He is absolutely right when he says that many of us blindly follows what we are told by the way of story sometimes. Most of the Indian people, out of ignorance follows that which has no basis at all. In most cases the so-called scholars and knowledgeble people actually mislead them to ask something from themselves, or some dead pious people in their grave. The beliefs that these so-called muslims have are no different from our hindu brothers in many respect. Even worse is that many moulavi encourage to do so. Being unaware about our deen, we are dependent on the islamic scholars, therefore scholars have to be really careful about anything regarding our deen or life of our prophets and their wives. May Allah give us knowledge so that we can wipe out things which are totally foreign to our deen. Insallah.

  12. Who said none of the Prophet’s wives were beautiful. This is an internal distraction. Yes, we have more internal distraction than external and I have witessed this in my recent visit to India. However, all the Prophet’s wives were not beautiful since marriages took place out of political compulsion too. At the same time, Prophet was a good looking man without overemphasizing and a human being first. To say that all the wives were beautiful is wrong and at the same time to claim none of them were beautiful is also wrong. Peace and Blessings be upon him.

    Shuja

    Toronto

  13. Jazakom Allaho khayran,it’s a great story which all Muslims never forget it.

    The story gives us an example of the successful relashionship between Prophet Mohammed(Salla Allaho alahhi WA salem)and Khadija Omou EL mouslimin.This is the story that should be in our mind not the valentine ‘s day.

  14. Assalamu alaykum,

    How interesting that you guys post this article on True Love precisely during valentine’s day. True, that many will follow the christians and jews even to a lizards’ hole. Now Saudi is banning red roses, I guess why. They have been absorbed by this kafir celebration; yes, this is celebrating the patron saint for love Valentine, who also took the place of a pagan holiday when the roman pagans became chistians.

  15. Whats the big deal with comparing this to celebrating Valentines day? We should lighten up and keep in mind humans/muslims in general do far worse things around the world than give flowers to their loved ones on Valentines day..

    And a very beautiful article about the greatest person in history.

  16. This brought a tear of joy to my eyes. What a woman to have stood by her man and given her wealth and life believing in her man. Todays relationships are easily broken under lightest strain.

    As for the other wives. How come even with Aisha being so young, The prophet did not have children yet with a 40 year old woman, he had 7 children? That means she would have been close to 47 with her last birth.

    It is said that The Christian Mariya had a child with The Prophet too, who did not survive.

  17. The writer of this article is another one like Hamza Yusuf and so many others, men and women, 1977 converts especially, here in the USA. They have been writing their own personal thoughts and stories passing it off as our prophet’s teachings and history. And note the stamp of “saw” after our prophet’s name that’s showing up in all of these articles I really wonder what those letters really say. It’s a shame that Islamicity doesn’t verify contents of articles first before posting.

  18. in my country, it is quite common for people giving speeches or prayer at a wedding to ask God to give such a marriage to the newlyweds as muhammad and aisyah, yusoff and zulaikha, even sulaiman and balqis. sometimes they will mention muhammad and khadijah. i think they are in error, and that we should be careful what we pray for. it is unknown what kind of marriage (if there was ever one at all) between yusoff and zulaikha, and nothing is known about the personal aspect of sulaiman’s marriage to balqis. and although aisyah is a greatly respected muslim personality, one must admit that her marriage with our Prophet is nowhere near his marriage with his first wife khadijah. to me, an ideal pairing, if one wishes to pray for one at a wedding, is a marriage like muhammad and khadijah. or, at least like adam and eve, who were made to love each other when the human race was innocent, and survived two tragedies together – that of being deceived by satan, and their son murdering his brother.

  19. In as much as I respect the writer’s opinion, I maintain that the Life of the Prophet is too noble to be associated in anyway with Valentine day, which is infact a kuffar observed love festival to make matters worse

  20. One question for you Zainon, what part of this article did you find fabricated?? I found this article to be beautiful and very uplifting…. and echos everything I have read and learned about the prophet (peace be apon him) and his wife Kadija. (and no i’m not a muslim convert, may allah be pleased with them all) I do however feel bad for you and your heart. Judging from your posting its sounds really dark and sad… Whom ever has studied the life of the prophet (peace be apon him) knows that he was a gentle and kind man and treated everyone with respect. I think its maybe time for you to do some reading on our prophet (s.w.a) may allah guide you and your heart to see a more beautiful islam an islam that is open minded and non judgemental.

  21. Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh) had 6 kids with khadidja (4daughters and two sons). He had another son with his wife Maria named Ibrahim who also died as an infant.

  22. Thanks for posting this artcle. Iam sure most of muslims arround the world will take this as an exampe in there marital relationship. The non muslims on the othrer hand will understand the concept of love as understood in islam.

  23. Bismillah,

    Dear br and st

    Assalamu-alaikum wr wb

    I hope that this email has reached you in good health and best of Iman and Taqwa.

    Our prophet (saw) he married other women. Most of these wives were widows, whom the Prophet married to care after them, or they were they were the daughters of prominent Arab. This is the point to be notice by our Muslim brother and sisters that poligomy it should by accepted and practice only for these reasons, i am revert to Islam my love for Islam was the cause for my divorce, i am at the age of 41 and have two kids, Muslim where i live know my situation and my dedication for Islam i am in dawah my self, but there is not even one Muslim who can take me and my kids under his care the way sunnah was done,this is todays Islam i have read many many books about sahabas, when Islam was being speard and how shahabas would take woman in a marriage after her lost of her husband in the cause of Islam i pray to Allah that i wish i was revert to Islam in those day instead of todays because i would have be taken care of by pious Muslim man.

    I pray for more hasanah and sabr until i die and that i die with Iman and only live this life for the cause of Islam.

    But any way i pray that Inshallah with Allah help TRUE practice of Islam comes back before the last days.

    wassalam,

    Fozia Noorani

  24. such a powerful fact brought by our sister that I could not control my tears no one has ever looked into this aspect of our beloved prophet no doubt that this will remain to be the most powerful love story in this world. Reading this during valetine days was a big treat.

  25. Today i have gone through your article.I really appreciate your step.We need the ones who really want to Highlight the positive and real aspects of our Prophet when rest of world is doing blasphemousing and misinterrupting the message of Islam and our Prophet Mohammad (PBUH).

  26. I think “jealous” is too strong, too ugly a word for a noble lady like Aisha. Maybe the Hadeec which says that Aisha was jealous is fabricated!

  27. Nice name, Hind – reminds me of someone during our prophet’s time. Subhanallahi wata’ala isn’t the same as Salallahi a’laihiwasalaam. There are subtle misinformations that are being inserted into seemingly truthful sentences by the very people who calls us Koranimals, Hind.

  28. SubhanAllah… the article was really great,I understand the authors sincerity in projecting the story in the best possible way to those youth who are going away from the reality and responsibility. May Allah guide us to follow the path shown by noble phophet Mohammed -peace be upon him (PBUH). AAmeen..!

  29. And those, whose minds are diseased and want to comment about the beauty, and give the name of their own choice, to Ummahatul Mumineen, are requested to turn these problems towards Allah. Because this matter is between themselves and Rasul-Allah Salallahualayhiwasallam. Imagine when they will be face to face with Rasul-Allah and Allah will be judging them. That day is not far away.

  30. assalaamu caleykum

    jazaaka’allah kheyr brother hesham. it is a great story. I saw a lot of you mention valentine’s day. acually valentine’s day is a day christian celebrate for christian martyrs. the correct name acually is saint valentine. some christians believe there is one valentine, other more than one. the point is that valentine’s day is a christian holiday. it is not a holiday of love. so, since we are permited to celebrate a holiday other than the ones that were celebrated by the prophet mohamad sallallaahu alaihi wasalam, especially if it is a religious one i will suggest my brothers and sisters in islam to avoid celebrating valentine’s day. Allah knows best.

  31. BISMILLAH WAS-SALAMU ALA RASULILLAH {S.A.W}.

    The writer of this true love story deserve pat.the muslims should stop celebrating valentine’s day because is not meant for us. the christians believe that they have only one day in 12months to display affections to their love ones but the muslims are known to always showcase true love to their wives or husbands. this means that every day is valentine’s day to the muslims wordwide.

  32. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We are all beautiful if we have the inner eye to see the inner beauty in each soul, a creation of God and whatever He creates is beautiful.

    Sadly beauty is defined today by the Hollywood yardstick and by that which appeals to the eye, but there has been many a person who were not beautiful by those standards yet the faith they carried in their hearts made their faces glow with light. That is the inner beauty lost on those who only seek physical attributes in a person.

  33. Really tht’s wht I call true love.I was mostly touched by the incident where after the death of Khadija few yrs later he found a necklace of her and burst into cryer..very touchy.

  34. Asalamu Alaeun Waramotullahi Wabarakatuhu

    The person that wrote this article deserved a lot of prayer(Dhua),because this article touch the heart of every reader.This is a great true love story,any other one is a counterfit.

  35. alhamdulilahi i realy appreciate this article.but i need love sent me a brother e-mail address that i can be writting me and tha would alwalys reply to my letter.i am single lady in university.

  36. ASSALAMU ALAIKUM

    This story is very interested and sweet,may the muslims sisters and brothers copy from the teachings of the prophet(S.A.W)so that we will have change in the kind of civilization we are in,to have an islamic civilization.

    May ALLAH (S.W.T)help and reward you abundantly.ameeen.

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