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    Posted: 13 August 2005 at 3:47pm

Asslam-o-Alaikum.

I have a problem which I cannot discuss with my parents or siblings. Hence this post. I am 19-years old, and addicted to self-pleasure. I feel very guilty and sorry about this, I've tried to correct myself for the past 3 years but have failed. Can some brother please tell me what should I do to stop this habit? thank you.

 



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As'Salaamu Alaikum Zarak,

Though I cannot justify your behavior which you have mention as a Muslim, but as a person as another guy to another I can understand. In actuality its quite normal. But Islamically it is prohibited. Actually brother there are forums here in which "masturbation" which is the self-pleasure I assumed you were referring to is considered a sin in Islam. There are ahadiths which refer to this but unfortunately there are no hadiths availabl where I'm at as I'm traveling right now. But, in accordance to some hadith it is said that when sexual desire is in the mind its best to do three things:

1) prayer

2) fast

3) Read Qur'an

Perhpas the reasons for this, is the sexual desire to please oneself takes time away from pleasing God. In other words while you are pleasing yourself, that time could be best utilized by praying to God or reading Qur'an. But if you happen to keep on doing this I suggest praying to God and asking for his guidence. None of us really can tell you what to do. Ask God what to do and he will help you brother....May Allah guide you aright

 

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...And btw, masturbation is far better than sexual agression!

If all child molesters would practice self-pleasure instead of attacking children, we would be in a better world. Masturbation may be haram, as it is illegal for a christian, but at my eyes, this is minor, and biologically, it's a natural need.

Reginald Roy
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Marriage. It will cure the urge for masturbation for about 7-9 years.

It cures all desire for sex after that.   
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LOL Bro David that was funny......
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im cracking up here David lol
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An important thing is to make sure you are doing things.  Do you have a job? involved in sports? join a youth group or other non profit organization?   Keep yourself active.

Next I would say you should start looking for a wife.  These urges happen for a reason.  Learn your Islam, get involved with the community, and i promise you will find a good woman.

Temporarily, I would recommend self discipline.  You need to get some control over yourself.  The fact is that it is not common for someone to be in that much of a need to post this message in this forum. This is a problem if you are truthful.   In the meantime take cold showers and think of other thoughts.

Your brother,

Jawad

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