Our baby has Down Syndome...advice needed

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   Assalamu Alaikum,
I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with our second child.  After some testing, we found out that our baby has Down Syndrome.  We have been given the choice as to whether to let the pregnancy continue or not.  Obviously it is forbidden for us to terminate the pregnancy...and I dont want to do that anyway.  My husband unfortunately does not think that he can handle this and he wants me to end the pregnancy.  He thinks the baby being disabled will tear our family apart and it will be a disgrace for him to have a son that has the problems that come with Downs.  He told me that in his culture, he is Arabic, that its a disgrace to have a child like that.
Needless to say I am absolutely shocked to hear this come out of his mouth.  I want to raise my son (we found out the baby is a boy), but my husband does not want him.
This seems like such an impossible situation for us right now.  How do I get through this?  I feel like he is trying to push me to do something I dont believe is right.  We are both Muslim, so I would have thought he would respond differently...thats why I am so shocked at his words.
What do I do?

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	Assalamu Alaikum, I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with our second child. After some testing, we found out that our baby has Down Syndrome. We have been given the choice as to whether to let the pregnancy continue or not. Obviously it is forbidden for us to terminate the pregnancy...and I dont want to do that anyway. My husband unfortunately does not think that he can handle this and he wants me to end the pregnancy. He thinks the baby being disabled will tear our family apart and it will be a disgrace for him to have a son that has the problems that come with Downs. He told me that in his culture, he is Arabic, that its a disgrace to have a child like that. Needless to say I am absolutely shocked to hear this come out of his mouth. I want to raise my son (we found out the baby is a boy), but my husband does not want him. This seems like such an impossible situation for us right now. How do I get through this? I feel like he is trying to push me to do something I dont believe is right. We are both Muslim, so I would have thought he would respond differently...thats why I am so shocked at his words. What do I do?